![]() ![]() The anger for my dad went away also because I saw how hard he fought to stay alive. Towards the end of his life, I think I was the only person in my family who believed he was going to die. I was the one in the family who spoke the truth of his disease. And it was easier for him to be in denial. My dad was very stubborn, “very manly.” I know now he was really scared and in lots of pain. It was his responsibility to take care of his health, not my mom. It was easier to blame her instead of my dad, because my dad was sick, but after working through my anger, I came to understand that I was really upset with my dad for waiting so long to go to the doctor. I thought, she was a nurse and she knows the signs of colon cancer, so it was her responsibility to get my dad to go to the doctor. I blamed my mom for quite a while, unfairly, probably for the first six months after my dad was diagnosed. He just never went, and for the longest time, I was angry at my mom about it, but you can’t make somebody do something that they won’t do. His family was “if you don’t acknowledge it, it wasn’t really there.” So he didn’t go to the doctor ever until it was too late. My mom and him went to go get a colonoscopy. And finally, I guess it got too bad and he did. He really thought he was dying right there, so he didn’t want to do anything about it. She was a nurse for probably about 10 years she really liked it before my dad got diagnosed. I finally was like, “What is wrong with you? You need to go get checked.” And just by coincidence, my mom was a gastroenterology nurse at the time. He went with my mother, finally, in that January after I had asked him repeatedly because he just looked bad. He didn’t tell anybody until he was very, very sick and very thin. That’s why he finally went and got a colonoscopy. He was having so much pain, and not being able to eat. He went in for the colonoscopy and he had lost 40 pounds for, probably, the last 3-4 months. My dad was diagnosed with stage IV colon cancer in January of 2006 at the age of 62. ![]()
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